Going Cold Turkey

This post is probably TMI, but if it helps somebody else, I'm glad to share it.

Everything I've read tells you not to do it.

Every professional says not to wean cold turkey.

Most sites recommend gradually stopping the mother's milk supply by eliminating feedings. For the last few months, we've been trying that.

The problem is, Kevin is a stubborn boy. If he knows there is a chance that he's going to get milk, he won't quit until he gets it. For the last few months he's woken up every 3-4 hours demanding milk. I'm tired. Some nights it's easier not to fight and it's hard to be consistent, especially when I don't wake up when he comes in (I'm a pretty deep sleeper).

Sunday night was the last straw though. He'd gone to bed early, but thirty minutes later he woke up, nursed for forty-five minutes, and wouldn't go to sleep. For some reason, that was the last straw.

We decided we were done. It also just so happened that Grig didn't have work Monday (they are working Tuesday-Friday this week). Timing seemed perfect.

A new tradition we're starting. We had a lot of fun making this poster.

The first night was miserable.

It took two hours (from 9-11:30) to get Kevin to sleep initially. However, he finally settled down in his own bed and went to sleep.

At 1:30, he woke up again. He screamed for another two hours until he finally curled up next to me in his bed and went back to sleep. We repeated the process one more time at 7:00 a.m., but it was much shorter this time.

It was a long night, but we felt pretty successful the next morning. We were worried that nap-time was going to be just as bad, but Kevin, like us, was very tired. After a little bit of rocking and singing, he went right to sleep.

He had a fairly short nap, but he woke up happy.

Last night went much better. It only took about 40 minutes for Kevin to settle down and go to sleep. He was out by 10. He slept until about 1:05 again, and then after a bit of rocking (an hour's worth this time), he settled down.

At 6:30 a.m, he came into our bedroom and without trying to nurse, went to bed pretty quickly. This is the most improvement we've seen in months.

As for me, I'm tired and swollen. Evidently I've been doing everything wrong too. I took a warm bath this morning, and tried to massage the swelling down. Not a good idea. Evidently that's exactly what you're not supposed to do. I kept trying to find help on the internet this morning, but most sites don't tell you how to help, they simply tell you not to go cold turkey.

Thank you, but I already am, and I'm not going to reverse the progress now.

Finally, I found some suggestions. They recommend putting cold cabbage leaves on (after using a rolling pin on them), taking ibuprofen, and using cold compression. Also, sage tea. I don't have cabbage, and we're out of grocery money for a few more days. However, we do have frozen vegetables. Those seem to be helping.

Yes, it is painful, but I'm pretty confident that we're doing the right thing. Kevin will be two next month and he and I are bonding in a new way.

Kevin loves his puppy

We're pretty excited that he's sleeping by himself and putting himself to sleep.

If you can gradually wean, that is much better. However, if you have a stubborn kid like me, know that sometimes you have to go against recommendations in order to help your kid.

He needs more sleep too.

Our Birthday Present for a Friend

 This week my friend's birthday was on Monday.  She is a single-mom struggling to make ends meet, so I decided we were going to throw a birthday party for her.  I asked her Sunday what she wanted to eat and she told me "Corn Beef and Cabbage."

Having never even EATEN that before, I wasn't sure how to go about it, but I agreed.  I also asked her what kind of cake she wanted and she told me she didn't like cake.

She likes pie.  Pumpkin pie, to be exact.

I'd never made that before either, but I agreed.  So, the next night, on her birthday, she and her three daughters came to eat with us.  We only have four chairs so it was interesting, but we were able to figure it out.  We ended up using a lawn chair, a small end table, and borrowing a chair from them.

I found a recipe earlier in the day for a crock pot version of the corn beef and cabbage, and that turned out quite good.  For the pumpkin pie recipe, I called my aunt and she gave me some excellent tips.  I actually usually don't really like pumpkin pie, and I really liked this pie.

The dinner was a lot of fun.  Afterwards, lit candles on the pie, sang "Happy Birthday" and she blew them out.  I think she had a good time.

This picture is from the internet.  I forgot to take pictures of the actual event.

The next night, for his present to her, Grig offered to take her kids to the local zoo while she relaxed with me.  I was browning a bunch of hamburger when she came, and she relaxed and played sudoku while I finished.  Then, afterward I had finished, we played card games.  She said that at first she had a hard time relaxing, but after a little while she was able to enjoy herself. 

It was nice to be able to spend time with them and help her have a good birthday.  We've been trying to help out as much as we can, so we were grateful that we were able to help her Special Day be awesome!